I do usually wake in the wee small hours, I’m not a brilliant sleeper until about an hour before the alarm goes off, and today is no different except now I’ve got myself in a mental tizz. I run the options through my head:
A) Pinkie goes and I try to relax and not picture green clouds of bacteria landing on her while she’s asleep
B) I text the mum and get her to text all the other mums to check for illness
C) Pinkie misses out and hates me and breaks her friend’s heart too
D) I lay there awake and come up with nothing
In the end I opt for D until it’s a reasonable time when I can add B to the equation. Luckily, the mum in question is a sensitive, kind type and will understand that I’m allowed to be a nutter.
In the past we have had numerous occasions when we were due to go somewhere, such as a children’s party and I would get a call saying, “We are going, but just so you know XX has got a bit of a cough.”
Now, what am I meant to do with that information? Usually, it would mean that my kids miss out as once flagged up how can we still go? I mean how important is it to sit in a hall and watch a magic show or whatever.
It got to a point when I stopped telling my two that we were invited anywhere, just in case we got ‘the call’. I asked our fantastic C.F nurse and she gave me a piece of advice that I can share with you now:
“Tell your friends that they are your friends because you like them and trust them. If they think their child is well enough to be around Pinkie then you trust their judgement.”
She went on to explain that they are scared and only want the best for Pinkie too, but putting the responsibility on me, when I haven’t even seen the child, is unfair. Since then we have rarely missed an event.
So, back to the sleepover.
The mum in question sent the text then assured me that all the children had a clean bill of health and that we were able to proceed as planned. So, although I’m tired after my sleepless night, I can rest happy knowing that Pinkie is having a great time with her pals.
I have to remind myself that it is better to just ask the question rather than worry myself sick, and any parent that doesn’t understand that extra care does have to be taken with Pinkie is not going to be having her in their care anyway.